8 Mindsets that It's time to say goodbye to
Your mindset is a powerful tool. It’s something you can work on and develop throughout your life!
I have several other blog posts on mindset, so make sure to check them out here.
This post is all about 8 mindsets that it’s time to say goodbye to. Don’t get me wrong-- I think some of these mindsets have a time and a place, but they are often overused.
Mindsets can be shifted and changed-- they’re like habits! In fact, I'd say they ARE habits.
1. Perfectionist mindset
Perfectionism is just a cute word for overworking yourself.
Seriously, stop with the perfectionism and just accept that not everything is going to be perfect.
While it might seem like perfectionism serves you, when it gets to an extreme, it doesn’t do you any favors.
For example, homework. If you’re a perfectionist with your homework, it makes sense that you would take more time to do it. That extra time cuts into sleep, family time, friend time, and free time.
Perfectionism can take you away from balance and make you too anxious.
Perfectionism can feel addictive because you think that if you start giving any less effort to the areas you try to perfect, you’re going to start performing worse.
However, in my experience you can gain more balance and peace. If you start accepting “good enough” in the areas where it's appropriate, you’ll have more time for things you enjoy and stop obsessing over little details.
2. Caring too much about what people think
Caring too much about what other people think is a trap that many of us fall into. When we get caught in other people’s heads, it can stop us from doing what we know we should do.
I’m definitely guilty of this, but it’s something that I’m working on.
I think that people too often don’t do what they know they should do because they’re scared of other people’s opinions of them--but those same people whose opinions we fear are afraid of what we think of them!
It’s crazy what this mindset keeps us from doing and accomplishing and trying, so let’s get out of this, shall we?
3. Victim Mindset
I’ve actually been thinking a lot about the victim mindset lately because my school is in the middle of a temporary shut down due to covid, and I feel kind of trapped at home.
But I don’t want to just “accept that this week is going to suck” or something like that. I want to have an amazing week, no matter what my circumstances are.
If you allow yourself to be a victim to your circumstances, then your experiences of life are subject to the things that happen in your life.
Get in the driver’s seat and stop letting your circumstances drive you around.
Noooooot that I have any experience with this one, but….
I totally do.
My mind tends to gravitate toward bad scenarios. Your brain is powerful enough to scare you.
But don’t let yourself do that. Take control of your thoughts. Instead of thinking about everything that could possibly go wrong (which, by the way, is a LOT of things, so you can't plan for all of them), try to focus more on the present moment and not worry too much about the future.
I know it’s easier said than done (by a long shot), but finding balance is important.
5. Stagnant Mindset
You’re not stuck unless you let yourself stop.
Keep taking action. Don’t let yourself start feeling like it's impossible, because the moment you do is the moment you give up. Keep moving forward, even when it feels impossible.
You’re not stuck. Sometimes progress goes at a slower rate, but as long as you keep showing up and trying, you’re not stuck.
Keep giving effort and trying to make progress.
6. Worst-case-scenario mindset
Believe me, I sometimes feel like my mind is paid to think of the worst possible outcomes.
However, that’s just no fun. :( All of that worst-case-scenario thinking makes me feel scared and trapped and negative. I don’t want to entertain those thoughts.
It’s taken a lot of work on my thoughts and my mindset to get to where I am today, and worst-case-scenario thinking is still something I struggle with, but I’m a work in progress!
7. Negative mindset
One of the worst mindsets is the one that’s just PLAIN OLD NEGATIVE!!! I bet you know from experience that it’s NOT FUN to be around someone who’s being overly negative-- it dampens your own mood!
Plus, it’s NOT a fun mindset to have. Negativity can be expressed as worry, lack of self-belief, regret, and other not-so-good feelings.
So let’s just decide today that negativity is a no-no. ;)
If you want to remove the negative mindset from your life, check out this post on how to be more optimistic as a place to start.
Finally, I have to mention just plain old overthinking. Overthinking can stall progress and stop us from saying and doing things we know we should do.
Overthinking can give us anxiety in social situations, it can stop us from putting ourselves out there, and it can get us caught up in the possibilities of what could go wrong.
Overthinking, in short, is the mother of fear.
Bonus tip: a mindset you should try to implement…
Balance is so crucial to balancing out your mindset. You need to take a look at your thoughts and recognize the limitations they have. That's been huge for me.
When we fall into the trap of catastrophizing or over exaggerating or perfectionism, we need some other ways of thinking that can pull us out of those traps.
Mindset is a powerful tool that we ALL have access to.
However, just like many of the tools we are given in life, mindset can be used in a way that benefits you or in a way that hinders you.
Throughout your life, mindset is just another part of your personal growth that you’re going to have to work on.
This post has been all about things to let go of, so I’m thinking there needs to be a follow-up post on mindsets that you SHOULD start implementing more—because that just sounds a little more positive. :)