Alrighty, so this is a topic that’s been on my mind lately because to be honest I’m not doing a great job of it.
Mostly as it relates to going to bed.
Every night I seem to PROMISE myself that I’ll be in bed by a certain time, and yet somehow I end up NOT going to bed on time.
But last night I DID. And the night before, and the night before.
I was quite impressed with myself.
But what’s the difference between last night and all the other nights when I didn’t go to bed on time?
I’m writing this post because I’ve finally found some things that are working for me. I went through a long streak of not knowing how to finally break the pattern, but now I’m starting to get it.
Find some value in keeping the Promise.
For me, it’s finding the moral value in keeping the promise that really motivates me to start making a change. For the issue of sleep, I thought about all the benefits to going to bed on time and how it helps make me a better person, the main two being:
So with those two things in mind, it makes it a lot easier to will myself to get to bed on time.
Acknowledge That It's an Issue
If you try to deny that something is an issue, then you can’t really fix it.
When I treat something like a big problem, I can take big steps to solve it. However, when I fail to acknowledge the problem, then it feels like there’s nothing to solve.
Make a list of all the reasons why it’s really important to keep this promise to yourself. In the moment, when deciding whether or not to do it, you need a convincing argument to get yourself to do it, and that list just might be it.
Find an Accountability Buddy
I’ve had several instances where I’ve had to talk to people and make a deal with them that I would PAY THEM if I didn’t do what I said I would do.
And it helps.
Find someone who will hold you accountable.
I’m on a little streak right now– last Sunday I got ten hours of sleep, then Monday I got eight, and last night I got nine and a half– I’m on a ROLE.
And it’s inspiring me to go to bed on time again tonight.
I also notice the same thing with working out– I LOVE working out, but when I don’t do it for a while it’s hard to start doing it again. The more you do it, the easier it is to do.
I anticipate myself going back and editing this post and adding more because I absolutely am still working on this right now, but it’s a good start.
Keeping promises to yourself is really important because it’s a sign of self respect. It takes dedication and discipline to keep promises to yourself, but you can do it.
I’m right there with you.